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Grass on the other side is always greener...

Surely, you have heard it said many times? Well, I know I have both heard it said and said it myself. It goes a little something like this: When you have a job, you might go home at the end of the day and grumble about it, complain to whoever is in hearing range about how somebody or something made your day unbearable. You might then see others wandering around at different times of the day looking like they're not working and you may well be wishing that you were one of them. The ads on television, your friends and even your neighbours might make life look easy. Ah, don't you wish you had the time to do things you want to do, not just doing things you have to do?!!


On the flip side, when you lose your job, you don't have a regular wage to rely on then time becomes your foe. You may hate the fact you have time on your hands and desperately try to remedy this by any means possible. You might fill it up with cleaning the house or gardening or trying to write stuff...Yeah thats what i'm doing currently! Well, two out of three aint bad?!  Why is it so?? You know you work to live and not the other way round but we are somewhat identified by our jobs in this society. When you're not working, you feel idle and want to do something but sometimes you don't know what it is that will make you feel better. Is there such a thing as a 'perfect job' or are we just waiting for retirement and/or the chance to win the lottery. Wouldn't it be nice?! Indeed.... thanks a lot Gold Lotto!


You see, looking for a job these days feels more like a chore than actually having one sometimes. The modern job search, about which there are many books and articles out there (theres a few in my library), is not so much about getting the paper at first light and knocking on doors like in my parents time. Now it seems to be about 'email', 'social networking', 'search engines', 'recruitment agencies', 'cover letters', Resumes or Curriculum Vitaes and answering 'selection criteria'. Nowadays, you have to modify your CV for every job you apply for and you have to know the right language, the right terms or otherwise yours is filed away with the rest of the unsuccessful, never to be heard from again. Gone are the days when your Resume was your story, your work history and that was enough of a guide for prospective employers. If you're lucky you'll get the 'unfortunately on this occasion your application was unsuccessful' type letter. And that may take weeks or months to come, if at all.


Every job advertisement seems to have some pretty heavy requirements/criteria that you must meet. Experience, sometimes they want years of experience but my question has always been “how do you gain experience, if you don't get the job?” A lot of jobs are specialised these days, for example it seems you cant get a job as a 'document controller' even though you have had 'records management' experience?! Why is that, aren't they basically the same or very similar job?? Many people have said, “you should get into the mines, thats where the money is i.e the big paycheques”.. Well, how the heck do you get into that? You hear stories of people driving oversized dump trucks and being paid 150grand a year but where are the jobs to apply for. Is it a case of having to know somebody in the industry?? If it were that easy, wouldn't everybody and their dog be doing it???


Where is the 'work/life balance' that lots of people talk about and commentators rave about?? These days it seems, theres a course for everything. When you are doing the course, you're thinking about the endless possibilities when you finish, right? Then when you've completed the course and get a job you find you have to continue studying to keep yourself up to date or otherwise you're quickly left behind. Now, is this a silly situation or somebody else's way of making money from your misery?? 'Lifelong learning', isn't that just the universities, colleges and professional associations way of having a licence to print money? I understand that new technologies, new laws or theories might come up from time to time but virtually doing another degree when you've only just graduated from one seems quite a stretch!


My theory is this: Society expects us to have it all and do it all but for most of us mere mortals this is simply an impossible dream. This 'grass is always greener' thinking has made us depressed and confused and probably angry but has probably made the advertisers, other institutions and lets not forget the 'scammers' a whole lot of money. There is simply too much information around us at any one moment these days for us all to process. How can we balance these conflicts and find harmony in our thoughts when life is getting faster all the time with more options and even more information than one can possibly poke the proverbial stick at?


Ain't it sad when you can talk about what you would do if you won the lottery for many hours, but checking your numbers to find that you haven't won the big one takes seconds. The fact that you know you only have a 1 in any number of million chances to win but you keep investing good money into it each week on tickets for little or no return. Serious gamblers will tell you when they won big but they will never tell you how much they put in or how often. For the lotto player, they'll tell you when they won a small division prize but will never tell you when they win the millions. This is not just for security but because it rarely ever happens. I have come to the conclusion that lotto is somehow rigged and that the big boys are buying heaps of tickets and claiming the big prizes for themselves. It wouldn't surprise me to find out that someone such as James Packer was secretly buying up big when there's major jackpots in Gold Lotto and then claiming those wins as part of his investments. If this is true, then it don't leave much for the little bloke like me to scoop up!! Perhaps this is just another example of 'greener grass on the other side' thinking? Stay tuned for my next blog post which will be called 'it's more fun in the Philippines' :)


Geez, I just realised how brown my yard looks, the neighbour truly does have greener grass than us!! Now heres a bright idea: Maybe I should just rip up ours and invest in Astro-turf, you know that faux grass stuff that is used on tennis courts and usually looks bright green all year round? Hold your horses, I can not just do that! Unfortunately, this is a rental property and modifications like that would surely not be approved by the owners!


Cheers :)


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10.03 | 19:15

I have stood by and watched a with concern and love. I admire the way you have handled yourself and the situation. My love with you. In admiration. Fly

10.03 | 14:07

Well, come back the TOG you old git. We will love you unconditionally there.

Seriously though, this is a good post. I am sorry for your pain mate.

10.03 | 12:26

Spread your wings you dodo, you might be able to fly.

24.06 | 14:03

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